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  Trigger warning: everything From here, I’d like to ask you to take everything you’ve read before and convert it to this: instead of Adam struggling with p*rn and inappropriate s*xual behaviors, I want you to think of it as smoking. Suppose he had started smoking at a young age, and no matter what I did, he continued to find ways to get cigarettes and smoke them. Suppose we had gotten him therapy, done treatment programs, tried to help him quit in every way we could find. Suppose this is a child/teen struggling with nicotine addiction. You also need to understand that I was following all our plans to prevent Adam from smoking, but that John had relaxed his standards and rules, and it was well known that Adam was smoking at his house. Suppose every time I brought it up, John lied, and/or told me I was overreacting. Suppose Adam had tried to offer cigarettes to his sister. Suppose he got caught at school smoking. Suppose he was using his cigarettes to burn holes in his clothes, ...

  The Tumultuous Time Trigger warning: physical abuse, suicidal ideation. Forgive me, but I have to fast-forward the story a bit. Just as I told you in my first post, there are people who don’t want this story told. I have once again been threatened and bullied into not telling the story for the sake of the kids. The reality is, they don’t want the story told for THEIR sake. It is hard to know how to summarize what happened, but I am sure you can let your imagination fill in some blanks. As for me, I can tell you some facts that led up to this Big Bad Thing. John and I had gotten divorced, and John did not take the parenting classes that are court-ordered to any divorced families with children. If he had, he would have learned that communication between the two houses is IMPERATIVE for the safety and welfare of the kids. It doesn’t take more than a google search to see what people have to say about helping kids through a divorce and living in two houses. He made no effort t...

As I predicted, after beginning to post, I was threatened and told to take my posts down by one of the offending parties. I have insisted that I will not. However, their bullying has given me pause and I must process how to proceed. But make no mistake: The story will be told. I will not be silent. Through everything, I have been amazed- stunned- utterly shocked- by how much attention and grace and help the OFFENDERS are given, while the victims must hide in the shadows and be silent. Almost nothing makes me angrier. While I believe in grace, in second chances, and in healing, I do NOT believe those things should take the place of justice, valuable consequences, and protection for victims. As I sit here and want nothing more than to tell you everything, my blood boils. To the person who has decided to share my posts with the offender, I want to clearly say you are aiding and abetting a pure criminal. This person has lied more times than I can count and chosen themselves over ...